Why do we make choices, decisions that are self sabotaging? Good question. It is important to share lessons learned to help others who may be struggling to FIND THEIR VOICE and happiness in life. Often our patterns of decision making come from our belief of self worth. Do we deserve to be happy? Do we deserve to have a healthy relationship? Do we deserve to feel safe at home and work? The answer to these questions is hopefully yes.
Perhaps seeking professional help may be part of discovering the answer. Being aware of the healthy patterns of behaviour and aware of the unhealthy patterns is a start to changing the unhealthy with the positive. Like any change it takes time with some patience needed. Most of us have doubts at some point in our lives. We may have regrets and hopefully learned something from the lesson, experiences that were successful or less than positive. Making mistakes is part of getting out of our comfort zone. I would prefer to take a chance, to risk being happy than know I am miserable. Life is too short to stay in an unhealthy workplace, relationship and mindset. Try something new.
From my book FIND YOUR VOICE-surviving workplace conflict, “Knowing I deserved to be happy well that was a novel idea; taking action, that was empowering.”
If we convince ourselves and believed we could not do it, achieve it or make it, then the world would have many folks still crawling on all fours. For example learning to like your own company means you are never alone.
Travelling alone can be exciting.