I often hear this comment, “He/she was so rude.” “
I wanted to say something but felt bullied to speak up.”
Being rude is never okay. Being a bully is never okay. We are responsible for everything we think, say and do. No one else just us. Sucks I know.
Sometimes the rude person may not even be aware of how hurtful these comments can impact others. Of course there are folks out there who believe they have the right to abuse others. We see it in the news, in our schools, in our daily lives, governments and in workplace leadership roles.
Finding the balance of speaking up, being rude and bullying, well sometimes we need help. I did. The pendulum swing from saying nothing to finding my voice took practice. Lots of practice and yes I was accountable for this journey.
Be curious.
Learn to understand your own behaviours and what is working and what is not. Only you can change you.
Think about your life and a situation where your response, a conversation was misinterpreted, someone was rude, someone said you were rude, or you felt bullied. How did you respond? Usually we get defensive and angry or shut down. Is there another way to have that conversation. It takes practice to find that balance.
It is not what you say but how you say it. Yes we can speak up to the rude person, yes we can stand up to the bully with the right language and attitude.
You are not alone.