How do we forgive? What is forgiveness?
Different for everyone.
Forgiveness. How do we forgive? Forgiveness is an active choice and it looks and feels different for everyone. Forgiving is not a sign of weakness. It is a powerful message you allow your mind, body and soul to embrace.
To move forward and allowing the pain to stay in the past where it belongs.
Are we scarred?
Yes. Our scars remind us where we have been but do not have to define our future.We learn to trust ourselves, to believe in our voice, to recognize our fear, to be willing to grow through our fear, To value who we are.
Keep the lessons not the pain.
With one foot behind in the past and one forward we are off balance. We have to move forward. Taking the lessons.
Forgiveness is not a green light for further abuse, instead we learn to set boundaries for ourselves, with family and friends. Once you recognize and create your own boundaries then you are less likely to let people walk all over you. Of course they may try and that is their issue. Learning to value and trust yourself is part of the journey. Self shaming is not helpful, none of us is perfect. Sometimes it takes practice letting go especially if we feel we have been wronged. Feeding that pain only allows it to grow and stay alive in the present. It feels really great to just say ‘goodbye crap’.
Forgiving ourselves as we grow.
We learn our greatest lessons from the people and events that challenge us the most.