YES ! There is a difference between being lonely and being alone. Our self worth also depends on our attitude.
Being alone is different than being lonely
Think about it. How do you feel today in your relationships? Everyone makes decisions based on their knowledge, experiences and needs. A relationship is a combination of individuals who have their own perceptions, wants and needs. You can be lonely in a relationship. You can be alone and enjoy life. It really depends on how you value yourself, your voice and your peace of mind.
Seems like a life time ago my therapist and I were having this very discussion.
I remember being incredibly lonely in a relationship(s) where my needs and voice were not valued. Every relationship was a mirror of the one before, unsatisfying and lonely.
Interestingly, the reasons for the repeat pattern was in my own decision making and sense of self worth in selecting these less than suitable mates. Not seeing that I deserved a healthy and happy partner.
Learn to like your own company
You see, after years of bullying and sexual harassment our sense of self worth is eroded and we truly begin to believe we are less than worthy.
HOWEVER, we can change our pattern of thinking by changing our pattern of believing.
It is and was an amazing transformation. Once I learned to value my own voice, set boundaries on behaviors and qualities I wanted. Life was happier.
Learning to like ourselves and not settling for unhealthy partners is empowering.
Enjoying your own company and you are never lonely. There is a difference in being alone and lonely. Lonely people tend to lower their standards and settle for shitheads.
It takes courage to leave an unhealthy relationship. Our children mirror what we do, say and the relationships we select. Personally I would rather be alone and then wishing I was alone.
Happiness is time alone.
