How do you reclaim your past?
Face it, seek help if needed, accept it, cannot change it so learn from it, re-write the bad stuff, edit the ending to one of peace and happiness.
Yes you can.
Is it your memories, experiences from your past keeping you stuck?
People often are stumped by their past history. Many have a difficult time facing it, letting go and moving forward. It is important to remember that only you can control how you respond and react to life today and the yesterdays.
Our memories can bring us joy or terrible pain. Once we recognize the good from the bad and patterns holding us back we can unlearn the negative patterns, relearn more positive and healthy patterns to move forward. It is never too late to learn!
Most of us did not have perfect parents with excellent parenting or communication skills
like Dr. Phil or Dr. Oz but that does not mean we have to repeat the same patterns again and again or remain a prisoner for the rest of our lives. Imagine you could live to be 100. Would you want to be held in a past of pain for 75 years? Not me.
Over time in leaning from the darkest moments, having a positive attitude certainly helped and seeking professional help was another empowering tool. Your story is your story.
For many years I had this strange dream or feelings of a dream, like a memory but it made no sense.
One of my earliest memories is looking through bars, like wooden bars my chubby fingers and small fists, at a lady sleeping in the bed across from what I know realize was my crib. She looked older, had those pink pin curlers in her hair and would open one eye then suddenly close it. Alternating eyes open and shut as I darted back and forth peering between the bars. It was a game. There was no fear just a sense of adventure and fun as she smiled back. This is my very first memory as a small child. One of peace and love.
Years later I learned and it turns out I slept in the same room as my Grandmother. Sleeping in the crib and watching her wake up to play. Apparently, I sat there patiently, hard to believe I know, and quietly waiting for her to wake. This little game of eyes open and shut was something she did.
It was indeed a wonderful feeling having her live long enough to hold my own daughter. Yes she played the same game.
Not everyone has early memories of love and peace. As the writer and editor of your own story, you can re-write the chapter and replace the negative with a positive. If you never had a tea party as a child and missed out, then have one today. Let your inner child speak and find their voice because in your darkest moments they were always with you on your journey. Seek out the supports you need to reclaim your life.
Never give up on you!
You are not alone.