Why is speaking up about bullying (in any place, home, business, school, university, boardroom, cyberspace, and in public space) important?
Speaking up about bullying in any place is important because it creates a safer and more inclusive environment. It promotes mental and emotional well-being and helps prevent such behavior from escalating and affecting others. In the worplace, for example, when employees feel confident in bringing attention to bullying, it sends a message to all members of the workplace that such behavior will not be tolerated, which can help prevent it from happening in the first place.
However, if management fails to address bullying, then the message is clear: this is a BULLYING WORKPLACE! And victims are on their own! No one wins this type of toxic workplace environment. Ask yourself if are you a leader or part of the bullying problem. Most importantly, addressing bullying can help improve the overall morale and productivity of the workplace, as employees who feel respected and valued are more likely to be engaged and committed to their work. If no one says anything then nothing changes.
The Importance of Speaking Up About Bullying in the Workplace
Bullying in the workplace is a serious issue that affects millions of people around the world. From my perspective, and years of dealing with workplace bullying as a female RCMP officer, this continues to plague too many workplaces. From verbal abuse to physical intimidation, bullying can take many forms and cause significant harm to both the victim and the overall work environment. It is therefore essential that employees feel comfortable and confident in speaking up when they witness or experience bullying in the workplace. It can start out small with ‘teasing’ and quickly escalate into a serious problem and violence. Something I was unaware of was the gradual decline in my mental health because it took a long time before I could recognize the bullying for what it was, which was psychological and physical violence.
The main reason why speaking up is important is to create a safer and more inclusive work environment. Bullying can create a hostile work environment that makes it difficult for employees to feel valued and respected. When employees feel confident in bringing attention to bullying, it sends a message to all members of the workplace. That such behavior will not be tolerated. This can help prevent bullying from happening in the first place. As well as can provide a sense of security for those who may have been on target in the past. The silence of bystanders and management can be deafening.
Another important reason for speaking up about bullying is that it can help promote mental and emotional well-being. Workplace bullying can have a devastating impact on an individual’s mental and emotional health. It leads to increased stress, anxiety, depression … But, when employees feel comfortable speaking up about it, they can receive the support and help they need. So that they can recover from the experience and regain their sense of well-being. For me, work became like a war zone, where there were not bullets or bombs. And instead, there were insults, social isolation, retribution, covert bullying and the constant fear of ‘what is going to happen next?’. Eventually, we are all worn down which affects our mental and physical health.
People often ask if there is a link between suicide and bullying.
Bullying eventually destroys our sense of trust and safety. Additionally, bullying can lead to social isolation, low self-esteem, and a loss of a sense of belonging, all of which are risk factors for suicide. Studies have also found that individuals who have been bullied in the past are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder, which can also contribute to suicidal thoughts and behaviors. I remember being scared to be alone and scared to be with people because of feeling so empty, destroyed and lost. Not a good place.
It’s important to note that suicide is a complex issue. And as such, it suffers influence from a range of factors beyond bullying. However, the link between bullying and suicide highlights the importance of addressing bullying in the workplace (all places). And also, the importance of creating safe and supportive environments for all employees. If you or someone you know is experiencing thoughts of suicide, it is important to seek help from a mental health professional immediately.
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Speaking up about bullying can help prevent it from escalating and affecting others. In my work situation speaking up was scary because there would be severe retribution in our RCMP organization. But, I did not want to be part of the problem so I spoke up. If left unchecked, bullying can escalate and spread, affecting not only the victim but also other employees who may witness the behavior. By speaking up, employees can help prevent this from happening and ensure that all members of the workplace are treated with respect and dignity. Everyone has their own reasons for remaining silent, however, it is important to note that the more people who speak up the greater the chance for change, accountability, and recovery. Think of #MeToo!
Finally speaking up about bullying is a vital step toward creating a safer and more inclusive work environment. Whether you are a victim or a witness, speaking up can help prevent bullying from escalating and help promote mental and emotional well-being for everyone involved. If you have experienced or witnessed bullying in the workplace, it is important to reach out for help and support from a trusted colleague, HR representative, or mental health professional.
Recovering from workplace bullying can be a challenging process, but it is possible. Here are some steps that can help with recovery:
- Seek support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a mental health professional for support. Talking to someone about your experiences can help you process your emotions and provide a sense of relief.
- Document incidents: Keeping a record of incidents can help you process your experiences and provide evidence if you choose to report the bullying.
- Prioritize self-care: Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as exercise, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones.
- Seek legal advice: If you feel that your rights have been violated, consider seeking legal advice from an employment lawyer.
- Consider reporting the bullying: If you feel comfortable, consider reporting the bullying to your HR department or supervisor. Having a formal process in place can help address the issue and prevent it from happening again.
- Focus on the future: Try to focus on what you can control and make positive changes in your life. This could include finding a new job, developing new skills, or setting new career goals.
Remember that recovery is a journey and can take time. Moving from surviving to thriving took a few years but has been so worth it. I am incredibly happy to be alive and thriving, living my best life with the people I love. Yes, recovery is possible and will look and feel different for everyone. No one has the right to abuse you. NO ONE! Self-awareness and self-compassion are key. Self-shaming only keeps us prisoner in our pain. Like who wants to stay stuck in misery? Not me. It is important to be patient with yourself and seek support as needed. If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide or self-harm, it is important to reach out for help immediately.
It takes awareness, courage and a willingness to be part of the change. Together, we can work to create a work environment that is free from bullying … Filled with respect and dignity for all. Remember that no one deserves to be abused. Whether at home, in the workplace, at school, at university, in the boardroom or in public spaces. Your voice counts. Be mindful of the impact of negative people/co-workers, set boundaries, be curious, create your own support network, self-care tools and strategies, hang out with positive people, and create a work-life balance including healthy food.